Today's Article (27/10/2025)
The Internet Is Calling This Type Of Men Worse Than Gold Diggers
In an interview with HuffPost, Walker said they made the video because they got tired of seeing video after video of men on TikTok complaining about women who only want them for their bank account, or if they’re “high-value men.”
But these days, most women contribute, too. Walker thought it was high time to give a name to the type of man who seeks out that labor, whether consciously or unconsciously.
“Men greatly benefit from being married,” Walker said. “They tend to have higher incomes if they’re married and live longer lives if they’re married, whereas it’s the complete opposite for women. Women’s lifespans are often shortened when they’re married, their career outlook is often limited when they get married or the more they invest into a man.”
Some of that difference comes down to men’s opportunities: Men do tend to have access to higher-earning industries. But it’s their wives at home who give them the peace of mind and household support they need to earn that promotion and be a star at work.
Oftentimes, those women are working, too. The so-called “second shift” takes hold for working women as soon as they walk through the door from their day job, especially when they have kids.
Then there’s the mental labor that goes into being a partner and parent (sometimes called emotional labor): It’s mom who, more often than not, is tasked with doing the seemingly invisible jobs no one in the family acknowledges, including making dentist appointments, sending holiday cards, managing temper tantrums.
“In many cases, young couples will plan for their futures and with the mindset that an investment in a man’s education or training will open more earning potential ― benefiting the whole family ― but women will work, pay bills, and manage the home while their husbands and partners earn degrees or complete training,” Danger explained.
This lopsided dynamic is framed as an investment in the future of the family, but as time goes on, the wife’s “turn” to have similar support as she pursues her own goals never materializes.
Rather than contributing equally to the relationship, Bryant wrote, “a labor digger expects their partner to act as a maid, manager, therapist, or caregiver, while they provide minimal labor themselves.”
“I’m divorced now but as a stay-at-home mom with my oldest, I always resented the expectation that all things domestic were my inherent or default responsibility,” she told HuffPost. “If my partner contributed, they were ‘helping’ as opposed to simply contributing, and it was looked at as something I should be grateful for.”
When the couple’s child turned 3, Bryant also started working outside the home. She expected the gender expectation to naturally adjust, but it never did.
Bryant’s lived experiences convinced her that “what men are taking from women is much more valuable than gold because it takes away our lifelong earning potential, our overall life happiness.”
“As hooks explained, these men skirt responsibility and feel entitled to the benefits of the domestic labor and the wealth and power accumulated with their jobs,” Danger said. “They protect their time and even their space ― man caves, for instance ― without protecting their partners’ time or space.”
“Some online groups and influencers build platforms on blaming ‘gold-digging’ ex-wives who they deem undeserving of spousal maintenance or child support,” she said. “Meanwhile, their careers and families would be impossible without the labor, coordination, relationship maintenance ― dragging them to therapy, for instance ― of their partners.”